I have a question from a gentleman who is concerned that his divorce disqualifies him from returning the ministry. The divorce was ultimately due to HER infidelity, not his. He sought reconciliation with his wife but she is the one who ultimately refused reconciliation.
My opinion is that this divorce does not disqualify him from the ministry for the following reasons 1) he was not the unfaithful party, 2) he sought to maintain the marriage with everything in his power, 3) the ultimate decision against reconciliation was his wife’s choice. 1 Cor. 7:15 does not condemn the believing spouse if the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave. I believe that, if he did everything he could to keep the marriage, if the other spouse chooses to leave, he is not condemned in the divorce
I also believe that the “one woman man” qualification does not mean only one marriage, but means that the elder’s heart is fully devoted to his wife and no other. He does not seek divorce for reasons outside of Scripture and he is not characterized by desires for other women or wandering eyes. From this gentleman’s question I feel he is that kind of man. He very much wanted his wife to stay and is very hurt that she has left.
I would really appreciate other thoughts. I want to be sure I counsel a qualified servant to continue in the ministry or an unqualified servant to not bring further reproach to the Lord.